Sorry I’ve been a bit MIA lately. I’ve been working on a super special secret project (two of them!) which I will spill the beans on soon enough.
I wanted to write a short post on something I’ve been thinking about. There’s this great quote in Kitty Thomas’ The Auction:
“When you really thought about it crying was a rather bizarre thing for any creature to be capable of. What purpose did it serve other than revealing too much?”
Which is amazing and true, except it’s not. In that story, the hero is a sadistic, Domly alien creature who likes to lick her tears because, ya know, it’s a Kitty Thomas book.
I think tears serve the purpose of mercy. They cause the people who see the tears to stop and say what’s wrong? and can I get you anything? and oh, all right, you can stay up five more minutes! And mercy seems like a pretty valuable commodity, evolution-wise.
Who can cry? Mostly women and children. Those that are physically weaker and rely on the strength of others for protection and hunting have the ability to generate mercy and goodwill in said strong person.
I think that’s why we also see romance heroes who so often are affected by tears, like the traditional alpha male who can bear any torture but the sight of a woman in tears. Even the uber-controlled Dom is affected by them, if only because he wants to draw them out.
So I don’t know. It’s a beautiful line, regardless, but I think crying might show exactly the right amount. Like if you try to hold it in, your body is preprogrammed to level it out. A built-in emotion balancing system.
What do you think? Are you one of those people who never cries? Do you seek out things that make you cry, like emotional movies or sad books?